I would like to give Thanks to our Creator for strength and courage...
PHYSICAL,VIOLENCE,SEXUAL...
COERCION&THREATS
Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her, threatening to commit suicide or report her to welfare, making her drop charges, making her do illegal things.
INTIMIDATION
Making her afraid by using looks, actions, and gestures, smashing things ,destroying her property, abusing pets ,displaying weapons...
EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Putting her down making her feel bad about herself, calling her names, making her think she's crazy, playing mind games, humiliating her, making her feel guilty...
ISOLATION
Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads and where she goes, limiting her outside involvement, using jealousy to justify actions...
MALE PRIVILEGE
Treating her like a servant making all the big decisions, acting like the master of the castle, being the one to define men's and women's roles
ECONOMIC ABUSE
Preventing her from getting or keeping a job, making her ask for money, giving her an allowance, taking her money, not letting her know about or have access to family income...
USING CHILDREN
Making her feel guilty about the children b telling her she is a bad parent or by telling her the children need a two-parent home, threatening to hurt the children, using the children to relay messages, using visitation to harass her, threatening to take the children away...
MINIMIZING,DENYING,&BLAMING
Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously, saying the abuse didn't happen, shifting responsibility for abusive behavior, saying you caused it....
A NOTE 2 MY LADIES......
I've been a victim of these evil trails of Power & Control,of all the above,
NO it's not fun, No it's not funny, I'm beautiful, No I'm
not a Slave, I am someone, I'm not crazy, why did I go threw
this? Because of love with the wrong boy and not a MAN!
Someone who was insecure of his own self, so
made the only one person who loved him, hate him.
To the point of "murder she wrote"
So what do you do In a situation?
Do you?
A- PLAN a murder
B-Sleep with his friend
C-Pray
D-Plan your escape
I want say which I did, but I know some girls
don't make it out, Some end up in prison and some just
pray, plan their escape & live to talk about it.
In my cousin case, (A)... Do I blame her?
No... Do I agree with her?
I've been in her shoes...
Ladies if you found yourself in a situation
or about to become a situation of power and control
get out before you get in.
It's not worth the pain and troubles, don't learn
to get use to trash& darkness...
Love Jenn